My friend told me to read this book He’s Just Not that Into You. According to her, it will really help me a lot and save me from another heart break. I have not been able to buy a copy until now but I have searched the internet and found the book really interesting. It provides a great deal of information that can be painful to accept but I must say, very reasonable. It says that if a guy does not call you or ask you out then they are just not that interested. Men, no matter what reasons they have, will surely ask you out if they really are interested. Nothing can stop them if they want you. Whether he is just your gardener or whether he is a friend. If he’s a gardener, yo iu might think that he is just insecure or something but then again, this is year 2008. When he is a friend, if he really wants you guys to move to the next level, the heck with the friendship. He will definitely take the risk.

By reading all these stuff, I was hoping to find the answers for my own situation but it seems a bit impossible. I still cannot guess where my situation falls - he’s into me but would like to take things slow or he’s just not that into me. I hate guessing games and I hate not knowing. This is the problem I really cannot handle - problem that involves other people’s decision. With other problems like money, it is quite easy to figure out a solution. When you don’t have money, then work or save for the future so it won’t happen again, basically the answers for this type of problem is something  predictable. Something you can prepare for or plan about. When a problem involves other people’s decision, then it’s rather complicated. You don’t know what that person is thinking and there can also be other factors that affect their decision which you have no control of. It is not measurable nor predictable. It is subjective. And all you can do is wait for them to decide - whether it is in your favor or not.

Now, all I can do is wait. My patience is wearing off. I’m losing faith and hope. Negative things creep in my mind - maybe he’s just not that into me and I want to cling to this thought so I won’t hope then get hurt even more. Sometimes, dreaming and hoping can just lead to a broken heart. For now, I will try to be negative.

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